Thursday, September 29, 2011

Gifts That Have Turned Into Clutter

We all have them.  Someone gave you a gift.  It is nice

Seinfeild even had a show on "Re Gifting"


Sarah Yams Clutter is simply things you don't use or make you feel good when you look at them, they just sit there taking visual and actual space. A note on the comment about feeling guilty about gifts; If you thanked the person for the gift, that's the end of your responsibility to that person, now the thing is yours to do as you please.






This makes sense.  Evie has it right.


When does the responsibility end with this?

Gifts That Have Turned Into Clutter

We all have them.  Someone gave you a gift.  It is nice

Seinfeild even had a show on "Re Gifting"


Sarah Yams Clutter is simply things you don't use or make you feel good when you look at them, they just sit there taking visual and actual space. A note on the comment about feeling guilty about gifts; If you thanked the person for the gift, that's the end of your responsibility to that person, now the thing is yours to do as you please.






This makes sense.  Evie has it right.


When does the responsibility end with this?

Sunday, September 25, 2011

The Flylady Way's "Stepping Stones" Series

Face it.  It doesn't matter what Declutter Program it is, by the time you read through any of them it can be overwhelming.  When you go to Flylady web site it is LOADED with information.  I know when I first found Flylady website, I thought wow!  This is a lot of information!  I also researched other programs too.  They had just as much information.  So why did I decide to follow Flylady?  What makes her different from the rest?

In my opinion, Flylady has HEART!  PERFECTIONISM is looked down upon.  Why?  Because it is the perfect platform to its all too familiar co-conspirator PROCRASTINATION.

Recently in the threads, many flybabies are stuggling with keeping up their routines.  They are frustrated and know they can fly but somehow they are not at the moment.  This is when they need it the most.  Many will then start looking at other declutter programs to see if there is a better way than Flylady.  All this does is get one into more confusion and stuck.  Then nothing happens.

A very close friend and mentor knows me so well.  This is what I used to do.  I used to look at several different angles with whatever subject I was interested in.  I would have probably five different perspectives taking into consideration at once.  The problem was, I never finished the final step.  I did not make a decision which direction I wanted to go for FEAR of not choosing the PERFECT one!!  There is NO PERFECT PROGRAM! It is as simple as that.  She told me I have to make a DECISION to what I want and then JUMP in!  Otherwise, all one will feel is being pulled in every direction there is.

Correct me if I am wrong.  It seems like the underlying turmoil going on with flybabies that are struggling may be experiencing what I just explained above.  So how can we all overcome this?  I have a few ideas and the approach that I am going to take because it will help me too is break down Flylady into manageable way for whatever situation that you are in so you can always feel like you are flying.  I don't really have a name for this but it is going to be a series of blogs that can be referred back to as cheering session.  I am a lot like Marla Watson Cilley in regards to writing with my heart and to write in such a way that it is honest and straight forward.

I don't, be any means want to replace or water anything down about Flylady.  We are all individuals and we each look at things in our own way.  We live in a country that allows it.  What I want to do is begin a series called The Flylady Way's "Babystepping It Simplified" Series.

This blog is the Introduction to  The Flylady Way's "Babystepping It Simplified" Series.  The next one we will jump in!
Keep Flying!
Marilyn




 I am still in search for a Logo that says me.  I have some temporary ones.  I feel I need to use my own picture because of copyright laws.  I have some others too.  Will show next time.

The Flylady Way's "Stepping Stones" Series

Face it.  It doesn't matter what Declutter Program it is, by the time you read through any of them it can be overwhelming.  When you go to Flylady web site it is LOADED with information.  I know when I first found Flylady website, I thought wow!  This is a lot of information!  I also researched other programs too.  They had just as much information.  So why did I decide to follow Flylady?  What makes her different from the rest?

In my opinion, Flylady has HEART!  PERFECTIONISM is looked down upon.  Why?  Because it is the perfect platform to its all too familiar co-conspirator PROCRASTINATION.

Recently in the threads, many flybabies are stuggling with keeping up their routines.  They are frustrated and know they can fly but somehow they are not at the moment.  This is when they need it the most.  Many will then start looking at other declutter programs to see if there is a better way than Flylady.  All this does is get one into more confusion and stuck.  Then nothing happens.

A very close friend and mentor knows me so well.  This is what I used to do.  I used to look at several different angles with whatever subject I was interested in.  I would have probably five different perspectives taking into consideration at once.  The problem was, I never finished the final step.  I did not make a decision which direction I wanted to go for FEAR of not choosing the PERFECT one!!  There is NO PERFECT PROGRAM! It is as simple as that.  She told me I have to make a DECISION to what I want and then JUMP in!  Otherwise, all one will feel is being pulled in every direction there is.

Correct me if I am wrong.  It seems like the underlying turmoil going on with flybabies that are struggling may be experiencing what I just explained above.  So how can we all overcome this?  I have a few ideas and the approach that I am going to take because it will help me too is break down Flylady into manageable way for whatever situation that you are in so you can always feel like you are flying.  I don't really have a name for this but it is going to be a series of blogs that can be referred back to as cheering session.  I am a lot like Marla Watson Cilley in regards to writing with my heart and to write in such a way that it is honest and straight forward.

I don't, be any means want to replace or water anything down about Flylady.  We are all individuals and we each look at things in our own way.  We live in a country that allows it.  What I want to do is begin a series called The Flylady Way's "Babystepping It Simplified" Series.

This blog is the Introduction to  The Flylady Way's "Babystepping It Simplified" Series.  The next one we will jump in!
Keep Flying!
Marilyn




 I am still in search for a Logo that says me.  I have some temporary ones.  I feel I need to use my own picture because of copyright laws.  I have some others too.  Will show next time.

Friday, September 23, 2011

The Walkabout That Almost Turned Into A Skunkabout!

My day started with plans to go to Sioux Falls to spend the night in a sleep study lab.  I got the call late morning telling me they did not have a technician available tonight.  They asked to reschedule for the coming Monday and I agreed.

My day then became very unstructured.  I just had not planned on the change.  So, I wondered outside to check on my tomatoes and pick ones beginning to ripen.  I also visited with the boys next door.  I gave them some split tomatoes to feed their chickens.

It was just so beautiful outside.  The past few days were cold and rainy.  I have been in my fibro-flare and thought I can't go on a walkabout.  I haven't gotten as much done this week as I wanted to.

Lily had been restless all day.  In fact something woke her up very early this morning where she was barking.  I believe I had about four hours of sleep in.  Then the phone rang.  Then Lily started to bark at something outside again.  By now, you get the idea that I didn't get a very restful night.

Finally, it was around 5 o'clock in the afternoon.  I just wasn't getting anywhere.  All I was having were many SHE (Sidetracked Home Executive) moments.  What was it that I really wanted to do?  I wanted to go on a Walkabout!  A year ago I would have had to MAKE myself go for a walk.  Now, all I want to do is a walkabout.

I have a great walkabout partner, Lily my half miniature dachsund and half sheltie.  I put her on a training leash that I wrap around my waist and put an anti-pull harness on her.  It works great.

Last time we were out at the farm I took lots of pictures so my pace wasn't very fast.  Today I wanted to speed it up some.  We head out clipping right along.  I am still feeling distracted and decided that this was just how it was going to be and just go with it.  There is always tomorrow.

That is when I spotted a skunk out of the corner of my eye.  I wasn't distracted anymore!  There was someone that needed to be distracted fast and that was Lily!  She has already had the experience of getting sprayed by a skunk a few years back.  My neighbor was babysitting her while I went into town.  Mom and I had just finished eating when I got the call.  My neighbor told me I had better come home instead of spending the night.  Lily got skunked.  You know how they say tomato juice is supposed to take out the skunk smell?  It didn't with her!  Now she smelled like a red skunk! (tomato juice and skunk)  The only way this smell was coming off is by wearing off!  As hard as it was, I had to make her spend a few nights outside until the smell went away.

All of this is flashing back as I see the skunk.  I turned around and pulled Lily to head back.  I am so glad I saw the skunk before she did.  It may have been a repeat outcome!  She did pick up the scent of something out there.  That was also the time the skunk realized he wasn't alone so turned around and went back into the weeds.

In town, I have to worry about peoples' dogs that aren't on a leash.  At the farm, I have to worry about skunks and racoons.  As much as it scared me, the confrontation of the dog that attacked Lily earlier this year was worse.  With skunks and racoons, one would have to get very close to their dens to be threatened.  I am so glad I saw the skunk before Lily did.  She went on to try to chase birds as they get up to fly.  Now it will be me dreaming of skunks tonight and not her!   I guess I will accept that I do.  At least I won't be having to smell that smell!

Until Next Time.......
Marilyn and Lily


Close Call Today!

The Walkabout That Almost Turned Into A Skunkabout!

My day started with plans to go to Sioux Falls to spend the night in a sleep study lab.  I got the call late morning telling me they did not have a technician available tonight.  They asked to reschedule for the coming Monday and I agreed.

My day then became very unstructured.  I just had not planned on the change.  So, I wondered outside to check on my tomatoes and pick ones beginning to ripen.  I also visited with the boys next door.  I gave them some split tomatoes to feed their chickens.

It was just so beautiful outside.  The past few days were cold and rainy.  I have been in my fibro-flare and thought I can't go on a walkabout.  I haven't gotten as much done this week as I wanted to.

Lily had been restless all day.  In fact something woke her up very early this morning where she was barking.  I believe I had about four hours of sleep in.  Then the phone rang.  Then Lily started to bark at something outside again.  By now, you get the idea that I didn't get a very restful night.

Finally, it was around 5 o'clock in the afternoon.  I just wasn't getting anywhere.  All I was having were many SHE (Sidetracked Home Executive) moments.  What was it that I really wanted to do?  I wanted to go on a Walkabout!  A year ago I would have had to MAKE myself go for a walk.  Now, all I want to do is a walkabout.

I have a great walkabout partner, Lily my half miniature dachsund and half sheltie.  I put her on a training leash that I wrap around my waist and put an anti-pull harness on her.  It works great.

Last time we were out at the farm I took lots of pictures so my pace wasn't very fast.  Today I wanted to speed it up some.  We head out clipping right along.  I am still feeling distracted and decided that this was just how it was going to be and just go with it.  There is always tomorrow.

That is when I spotted a skunk out of the corner of my eye.  I wasn't distracted anymore!  There was someone that needed to be distracted fast and that was Lily!  She has already had the experience of getting sprayed by a skunk a few years back.  My neighbor was babysitting her while I went into town.  Mom and I had just finished eating when I got the call.  My neighbor told me I had better come home instead of spending the night.  Lily got skunked.  You know how they say tomato juice is supposed to take out the skunk smell?  It didn't with her!  Now she smelled like a red skunk! (tomato juice and skunk)  The only way this smell was coming off is by wearing off!  As hard as it was, I had to make her spend a few nights outside until the smell went away.

All of this is flashing back as I see the skunk.  I turned around and pulled Lily to head back.  I am so glad I saw the skunk before she did.  It may have been a repeat outcome!  She did pick up the scent of something out there.  That was also the time the skunk realized he wasn't alone so turned around and went back into the weeds.

In town, I have to worry about peoples' dogs that aren't on a leash.  At the farm, I have to worry about skunks and racoons.  As much as it scared me, the confrontation of the dog that attacked Lily earlier this year was worse.  With skunks and racoons, one would have to get very close to their dens to be threatened.  I am so glad I saw the skunk before Lily did.  She went on to try to chase birds as they get up to fly.  Now it will be me dreaming of skunks tonight and not her!   I guess I will accept that I do.  At least I won't be having to smell that smell!

Until Next Time.......
Marilyn and Lily


Close Call Today!

Flylady's Monthly Habits We Have Done in 2011!

Sometimes, I wonder where this year went.  I remember like it was yesterday that I was making a commitment to myself to practice all of Flylady's Monthly Habits.  So far I have been successful.  How did I do it?  One babystep at a time and you can do this too!  Here is a recap of the monthly habits.  I don't know if you are like me, but for some reason pictures speak louder than words for me.  I hope this will help you as well.  


January - Shine Your Sink




February - Declutter 15 minutes a Day


March - Getting Dressed To Shoes


April - Making the Bed 



May - Moving


June - Drink Your Water


July - Swish & Swipe



August - Laundry




September - Before Bedtime Routine




October - Paper Clutter




November - Meal Planning




December - Pamper Yourself



So, how did you like the tour of Flylady's Monthly Habits?  Sometimes we make this harder than what it is.  That is just our SHE nature.  So when you become overwhelmed, come back to this blog and look over the habits.  To me when they are all lined up like this, they look reachable.   I hope it looks like it to you as well.
Keep Flying!
Marilyn

Flylady's Monthly Habits We Have Done in 2011!

Sometimes, I wonder where this year went.  I remember like it was yesterday that I was making a commitment to myself to practice all of Flylady's Monthly Habits.  So far I have been successful.  How did I do it?  One babystep at a time and you can do this too!  Here is a recap of the monthly habits.  I don't know if you are like me, but for some reason pictures speak louder than words for me.  I hope this will help you as well.  


January - Shine Your Sink




February - Declutter 15 minutes a Day


March - Getting Dressed To Shoes


April - Making the Bed 



May - Moving


June - Drink Your Water


July - Swish & Swipe



August - Laundry




September - Before Bedtime Routine




October - Paper Clutter




November - Meal Planning




December - Pamper Yourself



So, how did you like the tour of Flylady's Monthly Habits?  Sometimes we make this harder than what it is.  That is just our SHE nature.  So when you become overwhelmed, come back to this blog and look over the habits.  To me when they are all lined up like this, they look reachable.   I hope it looks like it to you as well.
Keep Flying!
Marilyn

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Important Things Getting Done Not Seen

When I uploaded my photo today, I saw a Flybaby making a comment as to why it doesn't look like she is getting things done, but she is.  It is the important things that don't show that are part of the foundation of Flylady! 


The important thing I am talking about is PLANNING!  We have to have time to plan in order for the flylady way to work.  That is why Flylady has Plan and Play Day, Partial Desk Day, and Paperwork Day.  


Monthly Habits
That is also why it is so important to implement the monthly habits.  First things First.  




January - Shine Your Sink




February - Declutter 15 minutes a Day


March - Getting Dressed To Shoes


April - Making the Bed 



May - Moving


June - Drink Your Water


July - Swish & Swipe



August - Laundry




September - Before Bedtime Routine



 Focus on those 4 things first and then see how you feel. Some days I have to break my Decluttering into mini decluttering sessions but that's also part of your hots spots to keep up with and the 5 minute Room Rescue, 2 minute drills, 7 for 7, Bingo.  Get creative!  For some reason, we have been brainwashed that the stuff that shows is the most important.  Well, if we are going take on this way of thinking, we might as well go back to the "Stash and Dash" way.  Flylady is about breaking things down into more manageable ways.  There are many of us that have health problems, family problems and we have tools for them.  Why not have tools for your home?  Well, this is what Flylady is so "lovingly" telling you.  Shine Your Sink, Declutter 15 minutes a day, Get Dressed To Shoes, and Make Your Bed.  This is my 6th year of FLylady.  I wasn't getting all the habits accomplished because I couldn't see why they were so important.  On January 1st, one of my New Year Resolutions was to follow the Flylady way as close as I possibly could.  I have got my biggest hurdle accomplished getting dressed to shoes.  There are others but I will deal with them when the month arrives and it is the habit.  The thing is that you won't understand what it means personally to you until you do each for at least 21+ days.  For now, I am concentrating on these four habits. If you want something you got done "seen", Shine Your Sink, Declutter 15 minutes, Get Dressed To Shoes, Make Your Bed and focus on looking at those things that are "seen".  Then let go and get your paperwork and those details started because they are important too and is what will make tomorrow be seen. Have you done these four habits today?  If not, do it now by jumping in where you are and then say "TADA"!!  Keep FLying! Marilyn

Important Things Getting Done Not Seen

When I uploaded my photo today, I saw a Flybaby making a comment as to why it doesn't look like she is getting things done, but she is.  It is the important things that don't show that are part of the foundation of Flylady! 


The important thing I am talking about is PLANNING!  We have to have time to plan in order for the flylady way to work.  That is why Flylady has Plan and Play Day, Partial Desk Day, and Paperwork Day.  


Monthly Habits
That is also why it is so important to implement the monthly habits.  First things First.  




January - Shine Your Sink




February - Declutter 15 minutes a Day


March - Getting Dressed To Shoes


April - Making the Bed 



May - Moving


June - Drink Your Water


July - Swish & Swipe



August - Laundry




September - Before Bedtime Routine



 Focus on those 4 things first and then see how you feel. Some days I have to break my Decluttering into mini decluttering sessions but that's also part of your hots spots to keep up with and the 5 minute Room Rescue, 2 minute drills, 7 for 7, Bingo.  Get creative!  For some reason, we have been brainwashed that the stuff that shows is the most important.  Well, if we are going take on this way of thinking, we might as well go back to the "Stash and Dash" way.  Flylady is about breaking things down into more manageable ways.  There are many of us that have health problems, family problems and we have tools for them.  Why not have tools for your home?  Well, this is what Flylady is so "lovingly" telling you.  Shine Your Sink, Declutter 15 minutes a day, Get Dressed To Shoes, and Make Your Bed.  This is my 6th year of FLylady.  I wasn't getting all the habits accomplished because I couldn't see why they were so important.  On January 1st, one of my New Year Resolutions was to follow the Flylady way as close as I possibly could.  I have got my biggest hurdle accomplished getting dressed to shoes.  There are others but I will deal with them when the month arrives and it is the habit.  The thing is that you won't understand what it means personally to you until you do each for at least 21+ days.  For now, I am concentrating on these four habits. If you want something you got done "seen", Shine Your Sink, Declutter 15 minutes, Get Dressed To Shoes, Make Your Bed and focus on looking at those things that are "seen".  Then let go and get your paperwork and those details started because they are important too and is what will make tomorrow be seen. Have you done these four habits today?  If not, do it now by jumping in where you are and then say "TADA"!!  Keep FLying! Marilyn